Throwback Thursday--The Dream Vs Reality Reflections

For Throwback Thursday, I'd like to share a blog post from January 2014. I didn't transfer all ten years of prolific blogging to WIX, but if you're interested you can find the original blog HERE. The book referenced was eventually published as Dawn of the Mages in 2015 by WiDo Publishing, and later republished in 2017 when I got my rights back.


January 13, 2014

Guess what?


I finished the first draft of Search for Knowledge over the weekend!!

The the most prevalent emotion?


Relief.


I was seriously starting to wonder if I was ever going to finish another novel. I talk a good talk on here, but it's mostly my way of trying to psych myself out in a positive way. However, the reality of getting published last year knocked me for a whammy.


All the things that I thought getting published would bring to me, never happened. For instance:

  • I would "feel" validated.

  • My family would finally see this isn't just a hobby for me.

  • Writing would be easier because I would know that I could do it.

  • My bouts with depression would never bother me again.

  • I would finally have the self-confidence to always be strong and assertive.

Sadly, getting published was not the magic pill I'd hoped for. There were definitely moments of validation, and I'm grateful for them. My family has been more supportive, but I've also tried to make a greater effort at balancing writing and family life. For some strange reason, the writing became harder.


I believe this is because I see the weakness in my writing. Part of me still feels like a failure. THE MAGIC WAKES isn't as perfect as I want it. I developed that "why bother" attitude. There are so many better writers out there, they can keep the world supplied with books. No one needs my half-baked, half-built, half "there" stories. *sigh*


Every day I struggle to tell myself it doesn't matter what others think, or where I'm at right now in this moment. What matters is that I'm trying to be better than I was yesterday. Because I want to be better. And for no other reason. (Well, and I don't want Talia mad at me again!)


Why are we harder on ourselves than anyone else ever could be? And how can I use it to my advantage? Here are the things that have helped me the last two months:

  • Set small goals Sit down and write SOMETHING for an hour every day. When I get good at this, I'll add to it. Write 1000 words a day, write for 2 hours, whatever will work for me at that time.

  • Forgive myself If life happens and I don't get to write, it's OKAY! The novel will still be there tomorrow. If the three page scene is really crappy, it's OKAY! Everything can be revised and edited.

  • Forgive others Don't hold grudges when other people don't understand or keep interrupting